"Am I good enough?" - How I learned to stop questioning my self-worth

Moments that put our self-worth to the test

I still remember the exact moment when I almost didn't recognize myself anymore. I was in a relationship that had slowly but surely drained me. Everything was fine at first - but over time, my boundaries became invisible, my voice quieter and my self-worth smaller and smaller.

I began to doubt myself. Was I too sensitive? Was I not good enough? Did I deserve to be treated like this?

It took me a long time to realize that:

💡 My value is not negotiable. I am not worth less just because someone else makes me feel small.

But finding my way back to myself was not easy.

💬 Today I know that self-worth is not something that someone can give you from the outside - it comes from yourself.

And that's exactly what this article is about: How to strengthen your self-worth - regardless of external successes, opinions or difficult experiences.

Why our self-worth often falters

Our self-worth is often linked to performance, recognition and success. But what happens when we find ourselves in a situation where these external affirmations no longer apply?

• When a relationship weakens us more than it strengthens us?

• When we are criticized or ignored?

• When we experience a major change and suddenly no longer know who we are?

Then we start to doubt. But a true feeling of self-worth doesn't come from external confirmation - it comes from the way we treat ourselves.

The SelbstWERT model: three central factors

🔵 1. consciously change your self-talk
👉 Your inner dialog significantly influences your sense of self-worth.
❌ "I'm not good enough."
✅ "I'm valuable just the way I am."

🔴 2. set boundaries & say no
👉 Your self-worth grows with every decision that respects your needs.
❌ "I can't say no, otherwise I'll disappoint someone."
✅ "A clear no is a yes to myself."

🟢 3. independence from performance & recognition
👉 You are not valuable because you achieve something - you are valuable because you are.
❌ "I am only good enough if I am successful."
✅ "My value is unchangeable - independent of performance."

How to actively strengthen your sense of self-worth

✨ 1. pay attention to your thoughts:
Become aware of how you talk to yourself. Would you talk to your best friend like this?

✨ 2. set clear boundaries:
Practice respecting your own needs - without feeling guilty.

✨ 3. recognize your value - regardless of performance:
Be aware that you don't have to prove anything to be valuable.

Conclusion: Your self-worth is already within you - recognize it!

The most powerful step you can take for yourself is to treat yourself with love, respect and appreciation - regardless of what is happening on the outside.

I know that it's not always easy. But I promise you: it's worth it.

✨ What is one thing you can do differently from today to strengthen your self-worth?

I look forward to your thoughts on this!

Sincerely,
Stefanie